Turning jaguars into kittens, Is love blind or not?

We enter into relationships hoping to change people whether its for friendship or lover. To make them more like us, to make them into what we think they should be.  We say, 'oh it's to complement us', but if that is the case don't you think they would come into our life already built with  the skills to do just that, and instead of enforcing change it would be just a little assistant to awaken that special spark....so to speak. Some people though, are just what they are, & who they say they are, they are who they were meant to be. Whether an animal, human, dog, cat you name it. Their character and personality have already been set. Now how can we go in and try to change that and be successful and not get hurt? They already have an agenda. At least most of them if not all. So if they already have an agenda yours better be five steps ahead of theirs. The love is blind or not blind comes in where we know to a fact that the person was not good from the beginning, but we try to change them, hope for a miracle. Miracles do happen, people do change, but how often does that happen. I would like to use the word 'evolve' they evolve into awareness become mindful and start making the right choice and do the right thing by entering into a state of consciousness. When you have become aware of your surroundings and who you are, you will see life on a whole new level, and that you CAN'T treat humans like prey. We realized from the very beginning that we knew all a long he or she was bad but  tried to pet the jaguar and 'turn the jaguar into a house cat.'  At the end of  the relationship (whatever that was) because of broken limbs or being forced into sexual activity and someone step in to help or you yourself came to you self. We say I knew he/she was no good tried or hoped he/she would "change". Have been living in denial. We deny to much of reality in terms of relationship and how it should be, we accept crappy and bad treatment from others and over dream a perfect relationship lifestyle.

We deny ourselves from being happy, we deny ourselves from anything good whether that mind set was created by direct or indirect influence. We know when we find love and good love!